Dating can be a frenetic and wearing experience. There's pressure to do well, make the right impression, be funny and interesting. And often it all has to happen straightaway because, if you don't click on the first date, there probably won't be a second one. Instead, it's on to the next opportunity to try to find someone with that instant chemistry.
Over thirty dating can be a whole lot better experience than this. Because people are older, they're more mature and know how it works. They've often had more dates than they wish to remember and know that some work out well and others are absolute disasters. So they're prepared to be patient, to see what comes out in a longer timescale.
Dates between over thirties tend to be much more relaxed; less clubbing and sweating, more talking. And because people of this age tend to have been around a bit, have seen the world and experienced life, they generally have more meaningful and interesting conversations. As a result, the rest can wait.
By the time they get to thirty, people have generally established a lifestyle, have a set career path and a regular social circle. They are content and confident. This usually comes out in dating because there's no great urgency to move things along at pace and things can happen more slowly over time.
People over thirty have been in relationships and know they involve compromise on both sides. Consequently, they are prepared to make allowances and expect their date to do so as well. They don't expect perfection and believe their own imperfections should be accepted as well. There is more likely to be mutual respect and a willingness to overlook failings.
Once people get to thirty, they're less likely to be looking for a one night stand. They've done all that and may well be after a long-term relationship. Often by this age, people want to change their life, to settle down with someone for the long haul. But there's no desperate urgency so they are prepared to wait and see how things develop.
When you get to this sort of age, neither party expects the sort of chat up and pick up lines, the flirty talk that they expected in their teens and twenties. In fact, they'll be offended by them and expect something altogether more mature. What they want is adult and interesting conversation, they want proper communication and humour with someone that has the same interests and more than a little compatibility.
Adopt a laid back attitude and take things slowly, be interested and attentive. Most of all, be patient and a long-term relationship may just develop.